When it comes to Valentine’s Day, otherwise known as the most romantic day of the year, many men feel that it is acceptable to “kill two birds with one stone” and to pop the question and propose…. but it’s NOT!
Further examination of that expression alone—with its birds, stones and death—raises a few red flags in my mind and begs the question: Is a proposal really something that you want to plan based on convenience or what takes the least amount of effort? I think not! And yet, according to the U.S. Census Buearu, a whopping 2.6 million Americans get married each year and an estimated 10 percent of those proposals take place on Valentine’s Day.
This statistic isn’t surprising, considering the amount of pressure to perform some Americans feel on this holiday. It’s understood that giving jewelry on Valentine’s Day shows how deeply in love you are with your significant other, but save popping the “Will You Marry Me?” question for another day. Like her birthday, and other holidays or special events, the proposal should have its own day! There are essentially 355 other days a year that are not already spoken for, so when you are looking for the perfect day to propose, utilize one of those days and leave the other 354 as just another day.
Think about it, when you combine a holiday with another event it turns it into an anniversary as well, which means you are missing out on one more opportunity to celebrate a milestone in your life together as a couple. Sadly, when the honeymoon phase of a relationship ends and life starts to take over; jobs, children, and responsibilities start to pile up, it is important to have as many reasons to celebrate and rejuvenate your relationship as possible. Selecting a unique day to propose means spreading those special days out even more over the year. This is also the best opportunity to think outside the proverbial box and create some buzz around your proposal. Once you hand over the ring and she says “YES” the majority of your participation in the wedding is over other than tasting cake, making a few suggestions on music or the menu and showing up on the big day to say “I DO”. Take this opportunity to make the proposal as big of an event as the wedding day. Be creative, do something unique and make it memorable!
So if you are toying with the idea of proposing on February 14th—put the ring away! Buy her a couple dozen roses and a great box of chocolates or a pair of earrings or take her for a romantic candlelit dinner but save the proposal for later so you can make even more memories to celebrate later in life!
Also, just to play devil’s advocate, if you happen to break up, at least Valentine’s Day will not be forever remembered as the day you got engaged! Just another reason I hope you’ll decide to create your own extraordinary experience on its own unique and special day!